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Divorce

Nobody likes divorce; it is an ugly word in and off its self. The very meaning itself is all about dividing, tearing apart, splitting and so on.

Why do you think many couples, people who divorce for whatever reason end up married to the same type of person, but in a different body?

Take for example a person who is abused in a marriage, mentally, physically. They leave as any sane person would and within a very short time remarry into a similar situation, different person but same issue`s, sometimes even worse than before.

Try to imagine a bungee cord attached to your Dad, mom or for that matter, anyone you have not forgiven. Now the further you try to get away from that person be they dead , living in another state ,country ,as soon as you get into a new relationship of any kind that brings your true emotions to the surface, back will come those unhealed hurts of the past on that bungee cord to slap you repeatedly.

Honestly try as you might you can never, ever truly get away from an unhealthy past until you face it right on and begin to deal with it. I am not saying go back to that abusive person to confront them as that can be quite disastrous.

No the healing begins in the mind were all those memories of UN-forgiveness are stored. One thing I want to say right now is you will never ever, ever forget, it is impossible but as you learn to forgive that person and heal the memories will no longer affect you as they did before.

Forgiveness is the key to true release, until you do; you will never be free to be who you were really meant to be. To live a life that is full and rewarding. To love yourself and those around with true passion in everything you do.

I was married the first time for 12 years, now I`m not going to rant and rave about how bad it was etc. truth be told we both found each other. We both had a lot of unhealed Junk in our lives and had no idea who we really were and then to top all that we made a lifetime comment to each other. How crazy is that. I came from a mentally abusive father who was alcoholic.

As the years went on I slowly began to realize that she was similar to my dad, in fact in all reality I had married my dad. (I’m not trying to slam my EX here, just prove a point) I found myself trying to please her to earn her love like I did my dad`s. then one day I woke up and realized that I would never have her love ,that the situation would never change. However, I still did not leave after all we had two boys.

Now I was a Christian and did not believe in divorce so as far as I was concerned I was not leaving. So I decided to go and get some counseling at a local Church that specialized in this sort of thing. Well long story short The Guy turned out to be a former alcoholic and tried to convince me that I was an alcoholic just like my Dad. I wanted to believe it to say I was , to but it just didn't fit, it was like I would be lying to myself. I wanted the truth so that I could be truly free in my heart and mind…OK to be continued in the next hub